Bad husband?

Recently a young lady called me for counseling, or in reality to complain of her husband. The young man she was ridiculing and complaining about is a good person and loves his family very much. He has not attained the highest “social” status and his job is blue collar, but he works hard everyday and supports his family. She belittled him saying he did not want to improve his lot in life and made fun of him.
She wanted me to counsel “him” and convince him to go to school and to “improve” himself. She did not hear what she thought she would hear from me. I told her that she needed to reevaluate her situation. My feeling is that she would be hard pressed to ever find a better or more loving father and husband. I went on to tell her that she might want to take a look at herself. I told her she should take a look in the mirror and see that she wasn’t exactly Brittany Spears and perhaps her next attempt at obtaining a “better” husband might be just a trifle harder than she expected. I mean where did she get the idea that she was some grand prize and God’s gift to the world? This young man changed diapers, helped clean the house, washed dishes, and many other things that I would not be caught dead doing. He does not go out on the town drinking, he is not lazy and works hard, he is not running around on her, and he loves her and his family very much; his only “crime” is that he has no desire to go to college and obtain a white collar job. I told her that such a man should be appreciated and respected and that she should be ashamed of herself. Oddly enough she agreed and at least for now they are reconciled.

None of us are perfect. It is easy to see the faults in our mates, but seldom do we look inward. Often what we may perceive as a fault, may not really be a fault; as with this young man. He makes good money and who cares if his hands get dirty. He is supporting his family and doing the work he enjoys. It is the American way. Even if she identified a fault in him, who is without faults of their own. Not her I can assure you. My counseling to her was that she should appreciate what she had and “respect” her husband. Check out below what the Bible tells us concerning husbands and wives…

Ephesians 5:33
Nevertheless let each one of you
in particular so love his own wife as
himself, and let the wife see that she
respects her husband.

How well do you know the Bible?
Jesus told one of His apostles, “I am the way, the truth, and the life.
No one comes to the Father except through me”. Which apostle?
John 14:5-6



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