Perfection? Not in this lifetime…

I was talking with someone the other day that is having problems with their spouse. Apparently this person feels that their spouse is deficient in many areas and in spite of the fact that their spouse loves them dearly and is a devoted spouse, this person longs for someone “more compatible’ without those deficiencies. News flash: We are all deficient in areas. Yep, that includes us. Further the Bible tells us that once we are married we become one’. I believe that we compensate for our deficiencies through marriage.

My wife and I complement each other perfectly. She is detail oriented and I would rather be strapped to one of my coconut trees and horse whipped rather than attend to the details. I am visionary and she is not. I was wild and reckless and she was little Miss Goodie Two Shoes’. Her steady anchor has kept me from blowing out to sea on more than one occasion. There are many examples of our opposite personalities; undoubtedly we are exactly opposite in many ways.

I would never say she was deficient in anything. She is how God created her and so am I. It is hard to argue with the Designer. According to the Bible, our marriage was created in heaven and we are to maintain that marriage as long as we live on this earth. In short divorce is not in the cards. I have often counseled those contemplating marriage that marriage is designed for life. Prior to tying the knot, the parties should pledge that be it guns, knives, fists, arm wrestling, or water pistols, all issues will get resolved without ever mentioning the word divorce. Too many people want to get a divorce at the first sign of trouble. If divorce is not an option then it becomes apparent that give and take needs to be implemented by both parties. If you are spoiled and used to ALWAYS getting your way, then you need to get over it! Guess what? You need to get over that in all of life not just your marriage. As Christians we are to be tolerant and considerate of others as well as forgiving.

Finally everyone has faultsoucheven me. That was a joke, ESPECIALLY me, and also you. Why look at all of the faults in your spouse when you have so many? For crying out loud, cut them some slack. No one is perfect Only Jesus Christ fit that bill. Accept your spouse, faults and all. That is how we managed to stay married for nearly thirty six yearsIf we would have had to live up to perfection neither of us could have fit that bill, (especially her):-) and we might as well have never tied the knot. Humility now that is the key

Proverbs 22:4
By humility and the fear of the
Lord
Are riches and honor and life.