The Bible is very clear that we are not to hold grudges. In Eph. 4:26 it states And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry . . .
I have never regretted obeying this verse and innumerable times have deeply regretted ignoring it as I clenched and re-clenched my teeth throughout the night angrily reliving wrongs perpetuated against me time after time to the point of needing aspirin and Tums.
Listen to what it says just a little further into this book: Eph. 4:31 – Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.
Oh boy, now that is a tough one; especially after that “so and so said so and so about me behind my back”, or “that so and so cheated me out of my hard earned money”, or “that so and so slept and I had to do all their work”, or whatever.
You know what is tougher than all those grievous offenses? Grieving the Holy Spirit!
Ouch! Don’t want to go there I tell you.
Someone has wisely stated that “We never get even by trying to get even”. God wants us to forgive others their injustices and put away all those bad feelings towards each other. I have forgiven several people that were not deserving of it. They wronged me and never once apologized or showed any sign of remorse. When I forgave them they acted as though I had lost my mind and pointedly asked, “What the heck I was talking about.
It didn’t bother me. I just smiled in knowing that my forgiveness of them was really more about me than them and by doing so I was the one relieved of the angst I felt over the situation, (and it saved money on aspirin and Tums).
I always keep on the top of my mind in these situations that God forgave me even when I did not deserve it and He demands the same of us. The bottom line is: Just put it to rest and give it a rest already. Life is too short.
This week seems to have gone by extraordinarily fast for me. I’ve been really busy and I suppose that is a good thing. I’ve accomplished quite a bit and even gone hunting on numerous occasions – I hope you’ve had a good week too.
By the way I urge you to mark your calendars now. We have beautiful Nashville singer/songwriter Jen Harris that will be with us January 11th for our 2nd Sunday special service. She has one of the most touching testimonies that I’ve ever heard and I can guarantee that there will not be a dry eye in the house as she recounts how God delivered her time and again through a series of tragedies reminiscent of Job that defy imagination, including being abducted from a mall, raped, and severely wounded with a box cutter and left for dead in a makeshift grave. Through it all she retained a sweet gentle spirit of pure love for Jesus. You do not want to miss this one and please bring someone who needs encouragement.
Have a great weekend and go to Honey Lake Church (or somewhere) this Sunday and think about giving a friend the best gift you could give them this Christmas season and bring them to church whereby they can hear the Good News of Jesus Christ the true reason for the season.
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret – it leads only to evil.
December 19, 2014 – Click here to listen