When I was a young man I asked a girl to dance with me at a nightclub. She looked at me with contempt, turned up her nose, and haughtily said, “No thanks!”
I looked at her and immediately said, “You just missed the best opportunity in your life. You missed a chance to dance with Bob Williamson! And with that I swaggered off to find a “luckier” girl.
Some folks cannot handle rejection very well. My attitude is that it’s their loss.
A significant other dumps you for someone else; you don’t get invited to that party of all parties, hunt of all hunts, vacation of all vacations; your potential client goes with another company; you don’t get that job you want; you’re not a starter on the team; oh my gosh, what to do?
I won’t try and sugar coat it; it can hurt to be rejected, especially by someone whom you love and/or respect. It helps to be a loner who doesn’t give a crap what others think, but most of us aren’t sociopathic and in fact are gregarious and do care what others think of them.
I know I’m an odd sort, but to tell you the truth I don’t spend much time worrying about being snubbed. My attitude is still pretty much the same as it was when I asked that old gal to dance; (the way I look at it, by now she’s probably morbidly obese, with frizzy gray hair, wrinkled as a prune, ugly even to her own mama, and has spawned four revolting and unpleasant snot-nosed kids).
As for me, well I’m doing just fine without her. I view her rejection of me as her loss and the same with anyone else that has (or will) dump on me.
In my not so humble opinion the problem with far too many is low self-esteem. This is an insult to God. He wonderfully designed and created each of us, individually, to accomplish a specific purpose for Him. He endowed us with every attribute that we need to accomplish it.
How dare someone, (including you), say you’re too stupid, too unattractive, too weak, dull, boring, or whatever to accomplish His bidding and make it big in this world.
This is not to say that we should get the big head and go around telling everyone how smart, beautiful, athletic, we are. Remember Proverbs 27:2: Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; a stranger, and not your own lips. But for certain remain confident and approach life knowing that with God all things are possible.
Parents tell your kids they are beautiful and gifted beyond measure. Don’t deride them and discourage them. Remember Col. 3:21 Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. Tell them they can accomplish anything they desire just like your Father has told you, (“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”)
Tell them that somewhere just over the rainbow is a pot of gold and all they have to do is find it and dig it up. Tell them Jesus Christ is there waiting for them ready to give His rest to them to enjoy. Shape them to be beautiful on the inside. God told Samuel not to look at the height or stature, but the heart, “For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”
Teach your kids that you love them and God loves them. Get them to memorize Psalms 139:14 – For I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.
So many of you aren’t kids anymore and the die is already cast. Perhaps you didn’t get the support you needed when you were growing up and in fact maybe you were abused physically and mentally and the raging river of life has washed away every vestige of your self-esteem and your hope right along with it.
Bah! It’s never too late to understand that we are God’s elect, indeed we are His children. He sent His Son to die for you and me and when one comes to the understanding that the almighty Creator of the heavens and earth loves you that much . . . well it’s hard to sit there feeling sorry for oneself saying, “Poor little old me” as you conduct your poorly attended pity party . . .
1 John 3:1
See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.
October 23, 2013 – Click here to listen