I had a discussion with the woman who cuts my hair yesterday about marriage and dating. She told me that she divorced the “worthless bum” to whom she had been married and subsequently had not been able to find a suitable replacement. She told me she finally gave up. She is 46 and has not seen anyone in three years and seems content with that, insisting there were no good men left out there that will allow her the independence she desires.
I read this morning of a liberal woman who is unhappy with her love life. She wrote, “As a liberal woman, it is really hard to find a man who’s willing to play the more traditional masculine role in the relationship in today’s day and age who is not a conservative.”
She then explained what she perceives to be the optimal man. She said, obviously, as a liberal woman, (touting her left-leaning status a second time), I do want to be respected for my independence, and I do want to have my own autonomy in the relationship and not be conformed to the traditional female homemaker, childbearing role.
She then adds – in what she labeled ‘one of [her] saddest realizations – that most of the men that she has dated who do have that more natural provider masculinity about them, are, normally, conservative. The content creator goes on to attribute certain characteristics to what she views as a perfect man – pondering how to parlay it with the aforementioned political prerequisite – Who is not a conservative while not forfeiting her, as she put it, “morals and values”. A man who wants to pay on the first date, who wants to open your door, who has that want and desire to take care of you and to provide. She then specifies, for a second time: Who is not a conservative?
Wondering why she cannot find a more masculine, traditional man without compromising, she continues to complain about her unsuccessful dating life. A complaining caption aired a critique of some of the lackluster, liberal men she has been presumably running into: All these men out here wanting to split the bill. ON THE FIRST DATE!!!! Whaaaaaaat . . .
She goes on to lament again about how her search for a strong-willed, leftist man has so far come up short – before asking if she is being unreasonable. I don’t really know what to do, because I don’t wanna compromise my morals and values just to find a man. Am I asking to have my cake and eat it too? LOL – You think?
She then adds – in what she labeled ‘one of [her] saddest realizations – That most of the men that I dated who do have that more natural provider masculinity about them are, normally, conservative.
Hmmm . . . I suppose she might want to think about following suit with the lady that cuts my hair and just live alone for the rest of her life. Or she might leave the politics out and take a hard look at what God has to say about marriage and the roles of the couple and not judge by conservative or liberal.
If I were to counsel her I would ask where is the shame of being in a traditional female homemaker, childbearing role? According to my interpretation of the Bible, God has assigned specific roles to men and women. I would argue that the man should be the provider, guardian, and leader of the family unit. Not all women can have a childbearing role, but those who can have children should assume the role of a loving mother and keep their home clean, be a faithful wife, and, OMG, cook. I don’t ask my wife to take out the trash, clean the gutters, or work on the car or farm and she doesn’t ask me to clean the house or cook unless it is grilling something.
We have been married for 52 years and this formula has worked fine for us. She likes for me to take care of her and open doors and work very hard to earn enough for us to live a good life. She doesn’t want autonomy, rather that we merely discuss our options. I welcome her input but we both know in the end someone will have to call the shot – right or wrong, and that responsibility goes to me. Not because I am on a power trip or am smarter, but because that is how we believe God set it up and that is how she prefers it, and the same with me.
With today’s men becoming more and more emasculated and trying to take on a more feminine role and women taking a more masculine approach it is going against God and nature. There is no such thing as men being women or women being men in the Bible or in all of nature. It is nothing short of rebellion against God. If you are a man, then ACT LIKE A MAN. If you are a woman, ACT LIKE A WOMAN. You will be happier, and your life will be more rewarding. And before you ask, Are men and women equal in God’s eyes? The answer is Yes! – men and women are equal in God’s eyes in that both men and women are created in the image and likeness of God (Genesis 1:27).
The phenomenon of gender reversals is escalating in our day with sex-change surgeries and demands that the “transgendered” be accommodated. People are abandoning their natural identities and mentally identifying as any gender they choose. Society (including in many instances churches) is indulging in this behavior, which leads to even more confusion. For those struggling with gender confusion, the answer lies not in altering their physical bodies, but in allowing the Holy Spirit to change their hearts. When we submit ourselves fully to the lordship of Jesus, we desire to follow His design for us, rather than choose our own design Galatians 2:20 – I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me . . .
So, all you women’s “lippers” and girlie boys can write if you must, but I suggest reading the Bible first. God is the author of His Holy Word, and I am merely a reader and messenger boy. Thinking that we know better than God is the doorway to becoming a fool. When a man defies his masculinity or a woman rejects her femininity, it is a symptom of grosser sin: the rejection of God’s ultimate authority. The closer we grow to God, the more we can embrace our gender identity. Both genders display certain aspects of God’s character in a unique way. When we pervert His choice for us, we limit the opportunities He gives us to demonstrate the glory of being created in His image.
Gen. 1:27
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.
Have a great weekend and go to church this Sunday!