Hot rock

Take a kitchen match and rub it against the strike box and watch it explode into flames. Hold the end of the match between your fingers and watch the flame burn brightly as it inches towards your fingers. Sooner rather than later you will need to let go; hold on too long and you will get badly burned.

Ok your husband left you for a little cutie and several hundred lines of cocaine; so now what? Hmmm Should you pine your heart away awaiting him to come to his senses? Should you eat your heart out crying yourself to sleep every night? Remember the kitchen match; hold on too long and you will get badly burned. Just let go and save yourself the pain.

The cocaine/cutie combo is very similar to a brightly burning match. The ecstatic effect of cocaine and sex is so explosive, pleasurable, and intense in the early stages that mere words cannot describe it. That is one reason non-drug users cannot understand drug addiction. They have never known that feeling, and I pray to God they never do, because it is like no other feeling that one can experience and the lust for it becomes irresistible. The pleasurable sensations continue to burn brightly for quite a while, clouding all good judgment, logic, and morality. As time moves on family means nothing; friends mean nothing, career means nothing; God means nothing; and nothing can compete with its satanic allure.

Oh but what goes up, must surely fall, and fall it will! Eventually like the match both will burn out and all that will be left will be the charred remains and broken lives. All drug users eventually experience it. The cutie will not be so cute anymore and the cocaine, even when consumed in huge amounts, will not explode anymore. You just take more and more to try and achieve some semblance of normalcy. It is close to the end at this point.

If you are the victim of someone abusing drugs and running wild, then my advice is to shake the dust off your feet and let them go; provided of course that you have already tried it all in reconciling including intense prayer, attempts at counseling, rational conversation, et al. Most victims of the foregoing have tried it all over and over again.

Divorce is tragic and ugly, but you are entitled to a life and a drugging, cheating spouse does not offer much of one. It does not have to be the end of the world for you to click the “next” button and move on with your life. The Bible tells us that divorce is permissible when sexual immorality has been committed. Drop them like a hot rock and move on. Reach out to God and He will deliver you from the pain. Paul said not to look back but look to the future; obey that command. Trust the Bible and God’s promise that if you will put your faith in Him, He will help you to find peace and joy. Make God the focus of your life and not some drug abuser cheater; in other words don’t pine away every night crying in your pillow for some loser who selfishly follows his lust. He ain’t worth it!

God has a purpose for us all and we need to focus 1000% on finding it, pursuing it, and accomplishing it. I have been married for thirty seven years and obviously do not think much of divorce, but I do think it is warranted in some cases. There is nothing worse than standing by your man when he is lying down with some sleazy gal at the Holiday Inn snorting coke. The same holds true if it is the wife.

As CEO I never did enjoy firing employees, but believe me I fired my share of them. In the beginning I would have a knot in my stomach for days, but as I began to understand that it was not ME firing them, but rather their own actions that brought it on, I got to the point whereby I would not give it even one thought. They got just what was coming to them and I and our company were far better off for it and I had complete peace of mind about it. This is no different. Go ahead and have a good cry and then move on.

Matt.5:32
But I say to you that whoever
divorces his wife for any reason
except sexual immorality causes her
to commit adultery