Wow I got a lot of feedback about my Burger King incident yesterday. I was supported by the majority, but as expected a few chose to lecture me about resorting to violence and being a “vigilante” in dealing with the child abuser. Several told me that instead of my fist I should have used Scripture and soft words to dissuade him. After I was lectured by them on the Bible and turning the cheek I was gratified to see that to a person, all my detractors said they would pray for me.
Hmmm . . . I appreciate that very much but would prefer that you pray for the little 30-pound boy who is living his life in terror of being beaten by a full-grown man daily. I wonder if any of them know how that feels. I do . . .
Perhaps too they can pray for the sick individual who was beating the little kid. Studies indicate that about one-third of people who are abused in childhood will become abusers themselves. Surprisingly the strongest predicter from childhood of becoming an abusive parent was not having been abused, but rather having felt as a child that one was unloved and unwanted by one’s parents – an attitude common, of course, among abused children, but also found in families in which there is no overt abuse.
A NY Times article on child abuse stated: “Among adult victims of childhood abuse who are in therapy, a common refrain from patients is that ”it just wasn’t that bad,” said Terry Hunt, a psychologist in Cambridge, Mass., who specializes in their problem. ”The key to their treatment is facing the fact that their parents were so cruel to them; they’ve bought the parent’s word that they were bad and deserved it. The damage shows up in their intimate relationships: they’re waiting to get hit or used again.” One of the crucial differences between those abused children who go on to become abusers and those who do not, he said, is whether they have the insight that their parents were wrong to abuse them.
Often, Dr. Hunt finds, the most troubled among his patients are those who were told as children, by adults other than their abusing parent, that the abuse was justified.
”If an abused child thinks, ‘that was wrong, they shouldn’t have done that to me – I’m not that bad,’ then he can still love his parents, but decide not to repeat the abuse when he becomes a parent,” said Dr. Krugman. ”The child somehow gets the message that what happened is not his fault, that he is not to blame.”
I think the fact that I knocked that guy to the floor for abusing his child sent a clear message to the child that his tormentor was wrong and no child should have to endure that happening to them. I suspect the sore snout of the perpetrator is sending him a clear message that his behavior is unacceptable. It will be reinforced when they correct his deviated septum in surgery.
So, I am sure I have sinned, and I asked Jesus to please forgive me, and to also forgive me the most for being unrepentant, because honestly, my only regret is, that in addition to breaking his nose, I wish I would’ve grabbed him by his hair and viciously slapped him like he slapped the little boy.
Ugh . . . I suppose I’ll never make it in this life in becoming a pure unconditional loving Christian. I know that upsets the religious sect even more, but I guess I’m just stiff-necked when it comes to children being abused. One of my readers tried to encourage me by telling me that no doubt this bad behavior will continue throughout my life and I should be comforted in knowing that I can purchase “very nice “tactical” canes, umbrellas, etc. these days . . . ” – I can see it now, I see a little kid being publicly beaten and I slowly shuffle over to the perpetrator and start whopping him about the head with my tactical cane.
I will say that Jesus loves children and I know He detests seeing them battered and abused. He turned over tables in the temple in a display of righteous anger for making His Father’s house of prayer and worship into “a den of thieves” and I doubt He would have stood by and witnessed what I saw and not done anything about it. His love for children was proclaimed when He said: “And whoever welcomes a little child like this in My name welcomes Me.” And Jesus, the author of unconditional love, used some pretty strong language to describe what His reaction will be to those causing children to stumble.
Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a large millstone hung around his neck and to be thrown into the sea.
February 16 2017 – Click here to listen